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Should you Love yourself in a marriage or just love Him

The verse I referred to in my quote is Matthew 22:39. It's a simple verse but the loving yourself part is often left off. It is left off especially when people want to use the bible as a reason for women to stay in abusive marriages. God values His daughters and does not call anyone to live in an abusive marriage. An abuser is emotionally broken. I understand that, but he or she has the ability to make the decision to heal, grow and change and often they do not make that decision. The strange, often confusing occurrence is when the woman in an abusive relationship is made the villain. She becomes the one who is not submitting when she stands up to his abuse and says. "This is wrong" and "this is unjust."  If she is part of a toxic church culture, it tells her that his leadership position in the home means he can do absolutely anything  to her and her role is to submit. The God who created and loves His daughters did not create them for abuse. Jesus r
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Don't lose your peace

Healthyrelationships#peace#dysfuntionalrelationships
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Chaos within

No one is perfect. Everyone can have inner chaotic thoughts sometimes. If someone has consistent chaos that is never resolved, it will invariably spill over to his or her interactions with others. Thinking about drama or negativity this way can bring mercy or empathy to the table. 
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What you focus on can bring you together or pull you apart

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Fear is a powerful divider

                 We all have fears. We react to those fears differently. Sometimes they lie close to the surface and other times deep within. The difference is whether or not we let our fears rule us or cast them aside. In relationships we may fear rejection, a repetition of past emotional trauma, loneliness, devastation, abandonment, or abuse. Our fear has the ability to make us hear things that are not said or assume things that are not really occurring at that time. The ability to differentiate between that fear and the truth will determine if we will let love win. If we will set our fears aside and get to know the person standing before us, learn to love them, learn to deal with their fears as well as ours; listen to what that person is really saying we may find a treasure we didn't know existed.
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A Healthy Balance

I read this quote and I loved the contrasts it presented. Extremes are never healthy, there is a need for balance even in relationships. May your days be free from chaotic relationships. Cheers!
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The concept of "Love worth fighting for"

     Love is a pretty big deal. The human race is so enamoured by it that there are so many songs,books and movies about it. It is a concept that influences all human interaction. All?? you might say; How so? A baby is born and to foster bonding medical professionals ensure that there is skin to skin contact between the mother and the baby (1) . When the father is present, skin to skin contact is also encouraged. Bonding and love are important to the healthy development of a child and so it is one of the first things that needs to be considered after a baby is born. The importance of love does not stop at infancy it plays a major part in the emotional development as the infant grows from one developmental phase to the next. It is important to understand this  concept of love that goes with us throughout life.               The word love is thrown around so many times. Hence, the need arises to comprehend what truly represents the warmth and care associated with it and decipher
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